Kicking Off Football Season: Men's Mental Health & Why Checking In Matters

As football season makes its presence felt, many men will gather around screens to watch and root for their favorite teams. Sports is one of the best ways for so many to bond and unwind, but behind the cheers, men face silent struggles. 

In the U.S., men die by suicide 3.88 times more often than women (source: American Foundation for Suicide Prevention https://afsp.org/suicide-statistics/). Sadly, many of these deaths can be linked to societal pressures that discourage men from sharing their emotions. Approximately 6 million men in the U.S. struggle with depression each year (source: Mental Health America), but only a small percentage seek help.

It’s vital to normalize talking about mental health, especially among men. Studies show that men are far less likely than women to seek help for mental health struggles, often due to societal stigma. Only about 36% of therapy patients are men (source: National Institute of Mental Health), which means many are struggling in silence.

Normalizing Mental Health Conversations

Regular check-ins help foster an environment where opening up feels safe and welcomed. Even if someone isn’t showing obvious signs of distress, creating a space for them to talk about what’s going on internally is crucial.

The start of the football season provides a natural moment to check in with the men in your life. Here’s why it matters and how you can start important conversations.

Why It Matters - Football Is More Than Just A Game

Men often mask their struggles, feeling the need to uphold an image of strength. They may use sports as a distraction, but beneath that, many are dealing with stress, anxiety, or depression. Checking in during this time—when emotions may be high—provides an opportunity to break down barriers and offer support.

• Social Stigma Leads to Isolation: Many men have been conditioned to believe that showing vulnerability or seeking help is a sign of weakness. As a result, they may internalize their struggles and use activities like watching football as a way to escape.
• Connection Through Sports: Watching sports and playing fantasy football creates camaraderie, which can serve as a protective factor against isolation. Studies show that social connections, such as watching sports with friends, can help reduce loneliness and provide a sense of community. 

Spotting Warning Signs

Not every man will express how they’re feeling. In fact, many men don’t show traditional signs of depression, like sadness. Instead, they might express irritability, withdrawal, or changes in their routine. Keep an eye out for signs like:

• Increased irritability or anger – keep an eye on whether their real life or fantasy team is doing well… these feelings can show up 
• Withdrawal from friends or activities they used to enjoy
• Changes in sleep or appetite
• Using alcohol or drugs more frequently
• Gambling and betting large amounts more recklessly
• Talking about being a burden to others

However, it’s important to remember that sometimes there are no warning signs. That’s why proactive check-ins are so crucial—even if someone seems “fine.”

How to Start a Conversation: Check-In Strategies

You don’t need to have a deep conversation during halftime, but the football season is a great opportunity to check in casually and consistently. Here’s how:

1. Use Casual Conversation: You don’t have to ask direct or heavy questions right away. Lighthearted chat during a game—like asking, “How have things been lately?” or “What’s been on your mind?”—can open the door for more serious topics.
2. Be Consistent: Men might not open up the first time you check in, and that’s okay. Regular check-ins show you’re there for the long haul. It’s about building trust over time.
3. Lead with Your Own Experience: Normalize the conversation by leading with something you’ve been going through. For example, say, “Man, I’ve been feeling really stressed lately. How about you?” This makes it easier for them to share.
4. Listen First: If they do open up, offer support without trying to fix everything unless they ask for advice. Sometimes, just being there to listen is enough.
5. Follow Up: After the game, follow up with a simple message like, “Hey, that was a tough game! How’d your fantasy team do? Let’s catch up this week.” Building consistency in your interactions helps create a safe space for more open conversations.

Support Resources

If someone does open up, it’s important to know where to direct them for help. There are many resources available for men’s mental health, including:

• Men’s Mental Health Support Groups: Many communities have peer-led groups where men can talk openly about their struggles in a supportive environment. Try searching for community mental health centers that host groups led by therapists in training.
• Therapy Platforms: Services like BetterHelp and Talkspace offer accessible, affordable therapy options for those who may be hesitant to go in person. They provide the chance to connect with licensed therapists from the comfort of home. In addition to therapy platforms, try searching directly for a therapist using Psychology Today, Inclusive Therapists, Good Therapy, or Therapy Den to search for a therapist that fits your budget and your needs. There are many wonderful caring providers who are eager to listen and hold space to process feelings.
• 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: If someone is in immediate crisis and distress, remind them that they can reach out to 988, a free and confidential helpline available 24/7. Please be sure to check out our other blogs to get more info about the lifeline and what to expect when you call.

Take Action: Let’s All Use Football Season To Talk About Mental Health!

Football season brings people together, and it’s the perfect time to check in on the mental well-being of the men in your life. By being intentional with your conversations, you can help break down the barriers men face when it comes to talking about their mental health. Even a small check-in can make a huge difference.

Remember: It’s not about the final score—it’s about ensuring the men in your life know they’re love and supported too, both on and off the field.